Dear Sad (But beautiful) Person,
The worst thing to hear when you’ve got depression is “cheer up”, “stop looking so sad” or some related condescending positive bullshit that just makes everything worse. Let’s be honest, depression is not something that can be solved by being told a little tidbit of advice.Warning:
If you have serious/clinical depression, or if you are suicidal, then call someone right away. There are people out there that want to help you. You can send one text and someone will help you (http://www.crisistextline.org), or call this number (1-800-273-8255) or visit (http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/). Also get this app (MY3 – http://www.my3app.org/), there are millions of people who want to help you.
If however you are just quite sad most of the time, and it’s hard for you see the good things in life, then let’s get into it.
First, know that its not the world that is bad or messed up, it’s your perception of the world. You see the world in one way, and the truth is, a complete opposite world exists.
[headline style=”14″ align=”center” headline_tag=”h2″]Your Perception is NOT the truth[/headline]
You have to start seeing this. It’s your perception thats not right, and therefore its your responsibility to fix it. Start taking responsibility for your own self esteem. Know that its in your hands, and it’s not something that someone else has to help you with.
Remember, if you have a serious case, then you may be so far down the rabbit hole that you can’t even help yourself, so in this case always seek professional help. However I assume since you’re reading this, you are willing to take action towards improving your self esteem.
[headline style=”14″ align=”center” headline_tag=”h2″]Batman’s Challenge[/headline]
To improve your self esteem you must first fix your perception. I like think of the batman challenge where he had to climb out of banes cave. This is what its like being in depression. He started in his cell, beat up, in the dark, unable to see a way out. Only until he crawled his way out of the cell could he even see the light many hundreds of feet above him.
When you’re in depression this is where you are. You have to see the light. This light is a better future. Know that were you are is not where your going to end up, and it’s going to change for the better.
It will take challenging yourself, changing your environment, influences, maybe your friends. You may even have a complete lifestyle change and be extremely different in 6 months time, however you will be going towards the light where happiness, contentment, success and power are sitting waiting for you.
[headline style=”14″ align=”center” headline_tag=”h2″]The value of depression[/headline]
Depression is a powerful emotion, and it wouldn’t exist unless it had some evolutionary advantage. This advantage is that it allows you to have deep reflection . You gain an ability to see deep inside yourself and be brutally honest about what needs to change.
When you are depressed, use that time to reflect and see what must change in your life. When you know what it is, and it should be quite instinctual, you can start to take very tiny steps towards making it happen.
[headline style=”14″ align=”center” headline_tag=”h2″]Improving your self esteem[/headline]
To climb out of the cave, you have to build up your self esteem with small baby steps. This requires sticking to that gut feeling that you had during your deep reflective depression. If you feel like you must stop something, start something, change something or go somewhere, you must stick to that integrity and make the tough choice of going for it.
When you take this baby step towards your true integrity, you will instantly notice a lift of the depression.
Now it’s not over yet, you have to keep working towards that goal. When you start dedicating yourself to it, you will begin to feel better and better.
Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to jump out the cave in one leap. Just take small baby steps towards your goal. When you reach that goal you can start a new goal and keep working towards that.
If you find yourself depressed again after this process, then just use that powerful emotion to go deep into reflection again. During the reflection, find out what needs to change and start again with baby steps.
If you take responsibility for your actions, you follow your integrity, and you enjoy the little wins when they happen, you will rise out of the cave of depression and enjoy the fruits of a happy and fulfilled life.
Here are some questions to ponder during your depressed reflective period:
How is this depression a reflection of my perception and not of reality?
What could I remove from my life that could make it better?
What could I add to my life that could make it better?
What could I change in my life that could make it better?
What tiny baby step towards these changes could I do in the next 24 hours?
Ask yourself these questions and you’ll have everything you need to rise out of depression. All it takes is for you to take that little bit of action, I can’t do that part for you, but I believe in you, I know you can do it, and deep down you know you can too. If you have any questions or you are stuck on any of the questions, let me know at: firstname.lastname@example.org